Here's what so many parents struggle with quietly:
You end up yelling when your child gets worked up despite trying your hardest to maintain your composure.
You lay awake at night worrying that you're messing up your kid and thinking about all of the ways you could have handled that argument better.
When you try to place a boundary it either explodes into a battle or collapses under the weight of mental exhaustion.
You feel lost and confused at how other parents seem to be able to parent without flipping their lid because you try so hard to do the same thing but your nervous system feels like it is running from a bear no matter what you do.
You don't know how to teach your child to regulate their emotions when you can't seem to get a handle on your own.
When the dust settles post-meltdown, you feel defeated - like there has been an irrepairable rupture to the relationship that grows with each fight.
Generic parenting advice does not fit your child no matter how hard you try.
You have researched different strategies to regulate your home but nothing seems to work "in-the-moment".
And here’s what’s actually possible with the right tools:
You’re able to parent with clarity and presence, even when your body wants to react as if everything is a threat.
You’re able to regulate so you can stay steady for your child in the hard moments, showing them how to move through big feelings safely.
You’re able to model accountability and repair, showing your child that even tough moments can bring you closer.
Feel confident in maintaining your boundaries in a way that honors both you and your child's nervous systems
You’re able to work with your child to find solutions that stick, instead of cycling through the same battles day after day.
You’re able to show your child that regulation isn’t about perfection - it’s about practicing, repairing, and trying again.
You’re able to stop forcing one-size-fits-all methods and instead lean on tools that actually work for your child’s wiring.
You’re able to reconnect with your child post-meltdown, showing them love isn’t erased by mistakes or hard moments.
You’re able to move from information overload to confident action, with tools that guide you step by step through the storm.
Strengthen your relationship with your children, foster peacefulness in your home, and create more space for joyful living.
What's Inside the Toolkit:
✨ 15 Self Regulation Strategies so you can respond rather than react.
✨ 15 Co-Regulation Strategies that are concrete, realistic so you are equipped to diffuse a meltdown.
✨ 10 Repair Scripts that are simple, effective phrases you can use to restore connection after snapping.
✨ Collaborative problem-solving tools so you can work with your child to prevent repeat ruptures.
✨ Real life examples so you can see exactly how to use the strategies in releatable parenting scenarios.
✨ Strategy Cheat Sheet for quick reference and reminders for in the moment use.
✨ Glossary of key terms so you’re not lost in therapy jargon.
✨ Visuals that bring strategies to life for you and your child.
You won’t just read about regulation. You’ll have a toolkit you can actually use in messy, everyday parenting moments.
Frequently Asked Questions
This toolkit was created for parents and caregivers of both neurodivergent and neurotypical kids who want to respond with more connection (and less yelling) in tough moments. Therapists will also find it useful as a resource for teaching regulation and repair strategies to families.
The strategies in this toolkit are flexible and can be adapted for toddlers, school-aged kids, and even teens. There are age modifications for each co-regulation strategy to help you break it down if that is helpful for you!
Not at all. The toolkit is designed for real life — which means you can flip straight to the Cheat Sheet or use the visual references when you only have 30 seconds to spare.
Instead of generic “just stay calm” advice, this toolkit gives you specific scripts, movement strategies, and real-life examples. It also focuses on repair after conflict — because connection is still possible even when things don’t go perfectly.
If you’ve ever gone to bed feeling guilty for yelling or thinking “I should’ve handled that better,” this toolkit will help bridge the gap between what you want to do and what you can actually access in the moment.
No — this is not a substitute for therapy. It’s a practical resource created by a pediatric occupational therapist to help you support regulation and connection at home.
That’s okay! Many tools are designed for you to model or quietly use yourself, which still helps regulate the environment. Over time, kids often begin to pick up and join in when they’re ready.
Absolutely, yes! While the toolkit was written first for parents, therapists and educators often use the same tools in their own sessions or classrooms — both to regulate themselves and to teach families practical strategies that translate outside of therapy.
Because this is a digital product that you receive instantly, refunds are not available.
No — every child, parent, and family dynamic is unique. While I believe deeply in these strategies (and have seen them help countless families), I can’t guarantee specific outcomes. What I can promise is that the tools are practical, research-informed, and designed to be adapted to your real life.
As soon as your payment is processed, you’ll receive a download link right in your email. You can save it to your computer, phone, or tablet — and even print it if you like having a paper copy handy.
The Expertise Behind the Tools
I created this toolkit as a pediatric occupational therapist and clinic co-owner who has spent years working with both neurodivergent and neurotypical children — and just as importantly, as a mom living the real-life struggles of parenting a wonderful and spirited child.
Over and over, I’ve heard parents say things like:
• “I know what I’m supposed to do, but I can’t actually do it in the moment.” • “I want to be the calm parent, but I end up yelling every time.” • "I feel like I’m breaking something in my child every time I lose it.”
And the truth is, I’ve felt those same things myself. I know what it’s like to lie awake at night replaying the moment I lost my cool, wishing I’d handled it differently, and worrying about the long-term impact on my child.
That’s why I didn’t want to create just another parenting resource filled with theory or fluffy advice. Families don’t need more guilt or more “shoulds.” What we need are tools that actually work in the messy, in-the-moment realities of parenting.
The ✨Co-Regulation & Connection Toolkit✨ is a blend of my clinical expertise and lived parenting experience. Inside, you’ll find self-regulation tools for parents,co-regulation strategies for kids,repair scripts, collaborative problem-solving frameworks, and real-life examples that make it practical and doable.
This isn’t about perfection, because that is unattainable. It’s about building trust, resilience, and connection in the moments that matter most.
Meet the OT
Hi! I’m Caitlin Sanschagrin, a pediatric occupational therapist, co-owner of Bright SpOT Pediatric Therapy, and mom to a spirited kiddo who teaches me just as much as I teach them.
I’ve spent years supporting both neurodivergent and neurotypical children in my clinic, and I’ve also lived the messy, real-life side of parenting. I know what it’s like to want to be gentle but find yourself snapping, to feel guilty after bedtime, and to wonder if you’re doing enough.
Over the years, I’ve worked in home health, mobile outpatient, and clinic-based therapy, supporting children with a wide range of diagnoses. No matter the setting, the kids who are often labeled as the “behavior” kids have always been especially close to my heart. I’ve always felt deeply for them and for their families — the ones navigating meltdowns, misunderstandings, and the weight of feeling judged.
My clinical background has given me experience across many areas, but my passion has always been helping families find ways to connect, regulate, and thrive — even when things feel messy. My work has been featured in The Today's Parent, Life Hacker, New York Post, Health.com, Yahoo!life, Zone Magazine, Authority Magazine, and Business Spotlight USA, but what matters most to me is being a partner to parents and kids in those everyday struggles no one else sees.
I created the Co-Regulation & Connection Toolkit to give parents — and therapists, too — tools they can actually use in the moment. Tools that help us steady ourselves, guide our kids through their big feelings, and repair when things get messy. Because perfection has never been the goal, it's connection.
What Others are Saying
“I realized my kids can trigger me, and just having that acknowledged feels so affirming. It helps me not feel alone.”
“Even though I try my best to use these tools already, it helps so much to see them written out. As someone who gets overstimulated easily, this reassures me that apologizing and repairing is the right thing.”
“I think the more support in this area, the better. This toolkit gives parents like me practical guidance for handling tough moments.”
“This toolkit gave me words when I had none. I used one of the repair scripts after a meltdown, and my child melted into a hug. It made me realize repair can actually make our relationship stronger.”
“I’ve read so much parenting advice that left me feeling like I was failing. This is the first resource that made me feel human and capable instead of guilty.”
✨ Get the Co-Regulation & Connection Toolkit✨
Get the instant download no - for the tools you need, in the moment you need them.
I'm Ready to Regulate!
